5 Secrets to Turn Your Pain into Purpose

    Unfortunate events can either break or make you. If you are weak and less resilient, hardship will push you into a state of hopelessness, desperation, anxiety, extreme sadness, and depression. You will experience a tough life.

    On the other hand, if you are resilient and optimistic, the struggles will make you a better person. They will strengthen your creativity and problem-solving skills. You can use them as a stepping stone to achieving significant life milestones.

    On that account, if you are battling some form of hardship right now, do not let the unfortunate events push you to extreme hopelessness or depression. Instead, use these tried and tested tips to covert that pain into a purpose.

    Easy Tips to Convert your Pain into Purpose

    1.    Avoid self-blame and criticism

    Naturally, when you encounter an issue, the subconscious will form false constructs that make you judge and criticize yourself negatively. Experts claim that blame and criticism is a normal reactions learned in childhood.

    Though usual, you should never give blame and criticism room when looking to convert your pain into purpose. Why? The hypothesized constructs will amplify your pain with feelings of guilt, self-disgust, or even depression.

    Therefore, eliminate the blame factor first when looking to convert pain to a purpose. Accept your mistakes, and acknowledge that no one is perfect. Afterward, list down your weaknesses, and find ways to solve them without judgment.

    2.    Assure yourself

    Situations like job loss, chronic illness, and losing a loved one will crush you completely. They will make you feel like you will never recover. Tough as they might appear, the events won’t last a lifetime. They will come to pass.

    On that account, when nursing a bad breakup, financial difficulties, illness, or loss of a loved one, do not let depression overwhelm you. Instead, remain hopeful that the heartbreaking situation will eventually end.  

    The simple act of self-assurance will push out negativity, thereby generating the energy you need to sail positively through those painful moments.

    3.    Challenge negative thoughts

    Persistent negative thoughts intensify your pain by making you more hopeless, anxious, worried, and depressed. Left unmanaged, the negative thoughts will make you feel blue about yourself, the world, and the future.

    Therefore, when battling a painful event, do not amplify it with negative thoughts. Instead, consider the situation a necessary evil designed to make you a better person. Think of optimistic outcomes that will come after the painful event.  

    For instance, if you just lost a job, do not think about how bills will overwhelm you and how friends will cut you off. Instead, take it as an opportunity that opens the way for new and better jobs.

    4.    Find a solution to your pain

    Each painful event has a solution or a way out. Therefore, when problems come your way, do not enter into panic mode and start magnifying the situation with worst-case scenarios. Instead, flex your problem-solving muscles, and find a better way out.

    For instance, if you just lost a job, it would matter to polish up your CV and start looking for better opportunities or something else that will generate income. Do not waste time thinking about how life is going to be tough.

    Remember, hurting will never rescue you from hardship, but action will.

    So, how do you find a solution to your problem? Identify the exact problem you are facing. Take a breather and brainstorm several possible solutions to the problem. Afterward, narrow down to the best solution, and pursue it.

    5.    Talk out about your pain or seek help

    Some forms of hardship are complex. For instance, losing a close person, learning that you have a chronic disease, or getting divorced can crush you to a point where you cannot find a solution independently.

    If that is your situation right now, do not give up yet. Seek support from a close acquaintance, or get professional help from a counselor or therapist. Talking to an acquaintance that cares will drain off excess pain, thereby lightening the load of your issues.

    Into the bargain, acquaintances who care will help you draft a way out of your problems. Contrariwise, counselors or therapists will use their tried and tested ways to help you get relief from the mental toll associated with pain.

    Time to Convert that Pain into Purpose

    Though painful, you have the power to decide if hardships blow out your candle or they become oxygen that keeps the flame burning. If you want the latter outcome, avoid self-blame, think positively, assure yourself, find a solution, and seek help.

    With a positive mentality coupled with resilience, the pain will never push you into anxiety, extreme sadness, or depression. Instead, it will make you tougher enough to face everyday struggles that make life meaningful.

    Dennis Omanga
    Dennis Omanga
    Dennis Omanga is a blog writer who turns complex topics into warm conversations.His skills include: creating compelling content for blogs or websites, writing for social media platforms like Facebook or Twitter, as well as generating articles for magazines and other publications.Dennis is also skilled at developing content strategies that help define marketing goals and set priorities.

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